Pretending will rob you of joy.
I’ve always struggled with not fitting in. One place I really did not fit in was Ibiza. The partying, the funny hours, the crazy energy, everyone being late ALL the time, the flakiness…… This past week I was on holiday there, and after a couple of days all this came flooding back to me: I don’t belong here. I love the beach, the music, the sunsets, my friends, the scenery, the sunshine. But a lot of it just doesn’t work for me.
Truthfully? I am much, much happier living in Tunbridge Wells. I am not a cool, fashionable, social person. I loathe small talk. But accepting myself as this, rather than desperately trying to be something I’m not has been part of my journey of self discovery and self love.
As this article says: “It is better to be yourself and risk having people not like you than to suffer the stress and tension that comes from pretending to be someone you’re not, or professing to like something that you don’t. I promise you: Pretending will rob you of joy”